Do you wish you and your colleagues; you and your friends could speak the same language?
The acronym DISC stands for the four personality styles represented by the letters:
D (Dominant, Driver), I (Influencing, Inspiring), S (Steady, Stable), C (Correct, Conscientious).
The DISC Personality System is the universal language of behaviour. Research has shown that behavioural characteristics can be grouped together in four major groups. People with similar styles tend to exhibit specific behavioural characteristics common to that style. All people share these four styles in varying degrees of intensity.
I use this information to increase awareness and self awareness. I am fascinated by what makes us behave in certain ways generally but, I am also interested in understanding how I can adjust my behaviour to be on the same page as somebody who doesn't operate in the same way? Heaven knows I've had a few personality clashes in the work place. I'm sure you can relate.
I'm Highly Sensitive by trait which is a naturally occurring trait in 1 in 5 people, it has no discrimination and it isn't gender bias. Because of a highly developed nervous system, I feel extreme joy and can also feel extreme sadness. Growing up not understanding my trait made me feel the odd one out so it was a beautiful moment when I realised that there are other people wired the same way.
Delving in to DISC, becoming accredited has provided a deeper understanding of my preferences as well as the preferred styles of others.
Actually, the truth is I laughed all the way through my accreditation. Many OMG moments and nods of acknowledgement when the report was presented and the room was divided up as we performed our exercises; experimented with scenarios and how we would react in given situations. I was surrounded by men and women just like me and in other corners of the room those not much like me at all.
The best feeling that I came away with is that I like who I am because it's not too long ago that I wondered "Am I enough?".
I am detail oriented, don't like confrontation but, that doesn't mean I'm a push over in any sense so if you're going to challenge me bring on the evidence. I am task oriented first but, also steady and stable and loyal and of course sensitive. According to my report I am a Precisionist.
I have no problem with this information at all. Everything I learn fills another space where ignorance once sat and provides knowledge and strengths and builds a picture of where and how I can best utilise them what I know and come to understand.
I am not surprised by the information I have learned but it is wonderful when you can reframe a previously perceived negative in to a positive. Once upon a time I tried to fit in (nurture not nature) but, as the saying goes 'we are all meant to stand out'.'
I am a CS personality and knowing this piece of information raises my self awareness and also helps explain why I don't necessarily speak the same language as others around me and that language barrier has nothing to do with nationality.
The greatest learning however, was being opened up to different methodologies and taking time to pause and adapt to the environment.
Be mindful of other preferences, different tendencies. Our combined strengths; skill sets can best serve a team; a relationship when they join force and work together.
Knowledge removes ambiguity stops the persistent analysing of what 'they' meant by (fill in the blanks).
Sometimes, it turns out that they just didn't mean anything. It's just their style not personal at all. When you acknowledge your style and understand the preferences of others, that's when you'll break barriers and speak the same language.